Difficult team situations are not caused by what happened. Difficult team situations are caused by fighting or fleeing from what happened. A key step in living these three attributes is to accept this as truth. The attributes are
- Non-Attachment to Power, Fame, Money or Pleasure.
There are and will always be differences between people that result in difficult team situations. It has been said that Right-Minded Teammates and Facilitators use these 3 attributes to rise above the differences to find solutions to resolve the difficult situations. They, in fact, ….
- Trust Themselves and Their Teammates
- Constantly Advocate for Individual and Team Accountability
- Don’t Get Intoxicated by Individual Power, Fame, Money or Pleasure
1. They Trust Themselves and Teammates
Trust, in this case, is about happily seeing those ole darn difficult team situations as perfect teamwork (and life) opportunities to learn how to choose “right-mindedness”, again. You don’t want to fight or flee. You want to stand trustingly, kindly and forgivingly in the midst of the difficultly and say to yourself, “I trust myself and my teammates to find the best solution.”
When teammates have a shared interest in resolving the upset, the team will find the best solution. When you do that, you and your teammates have truly accepted the Right-Minded Principle of …
“I’m not a victim of the difficult team situation I see.”
2. They constantly advocate for Individual and Team Accountability
At the heart of this attribute is your individual and team willingness to choose accountability by asking yourselves, in the midst of when those difficult situations are happening,
“What can I or we learn from this? What did I or we do to create, promote or allow this to happen?”
The answers to these questions will help you find the answers which is the opposite of fighting or fleeing the difficulty.
3. They don’t get intoxicated by individual Power, Fame, Money or Pleasure
On the surface, this is a hard attribute to achieve, but when you really look at it with your Right Mind, it’s easy.
There is nothing wrong with power, fame, money and pleasure. However, if you you bring your love and need for them into a teammate discussion as to how to resolve the difficult team situation, you are actually perpetuating the difficult team situation.
I’m sure you will agree that it is foolish to behave the same way but expect different results. You would not excuse yourself by saying you could not help it. So why should you excuse yourself for foolish thinking?
Attachment or non-attachment to power, fame, money and pleasure is in your mind. Control your mind and you will always be happy with what comes your way.
Note: Sigmund Freud discovered Power, Fame, Money and Pleasure as barriers to psychological development.
Call to Mental Action
Train your mind to vigilantly demonstrate Right-Minded Teamwork principles. That means, when difficult team situations happen, remember to THINK and say to yourself…
- How is my attachment to power, fame, money or pleasure making this situation worse?
- What have I done to create, promote or allow this to happen?
- I trust myself and my teammates to find the best solution.
To your Success, Dan
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